The start of a new year is usually a time of goal setting. We set aside time to figure out what works and what doesn’t work in our life. It’s a time of setting goals for the coming year and choosing which of the many to-do list items may make it to our “Top Priority List”.
Before you sit down and write up a list of goals to add to your already over-scheduled life, it might be interesting to address the issue of crazy busy.
Brene Brown, in her book Daring Greatly, talks about wearing our busyness as a badge of honor. Brown suggests that our culture has become one which equates being busy with being important. “One of the most universal numbing strategies is what I call crazy-busy… We are a culture of people who’ve bought into the idea that if we stay busy enough, the truth of our lives won’t catch up with us.”
This fear-based strategy causes us to hide behind our active to-do list and not look too deeply into the inner recesses of our hearts. We are afraid of what we might see deep down there in our space of inner knowingness. We are afraid that we are not good enough, not pretty enough, not smart enough, not whatever-you-want enough.
Are you too busy hiding behind the mask of activities to discover who-you-really-are and why you are here on this earth? Is the focus of your life to rush from one activity to another, or to take your kids from one after school activity to another, every single day?
What happened to quiet time? Time to think, time to chill, time to quiet the mind and listen to our heart’s desires? Maybe this is the year to simplify your life. Maybe this is the year to gift yourself time. Time to breathe, time to notice the flowers in the garden, time to sit with an ailing parent, time to be present in your life.
Brené invites us to ask the following questions. “Are my choices comforting and nourishing my spirit, or are they temporary reprieves from vulnerability and difficult emotions, ultimately diminishing my spirit? Are my choices leading my Wholeheartedness, or do they leave me feeling empty and searching?”
My request to you this month: Before you go gung-ho into drawing up a list of goals for the year, spend some time in meditation. Be thankful for all that you have. Think about your accomplishments and your progress towards living a life full of purpose and meaning. Be grateful for how far you’ve come and how much you’ve grown this past year. Think of the great relationships you have and all that has gone well. Surround yourself with the energy of positivity, gratitude and appreciation.
Remember that as we think, so we become. Our thoughts are powerful magnets calling to us energies of the same vibration. If we fill our mind with thoughts of gratitude and positivity, we will attract like-minded energies.
We have a choice. Every minute of every day. Will we choose crazy busy, with its chaos and turmoil, or will we choose Wholeheartedness?
As you contemplate this question, bring your attention to your current to-do list and list of possible goals for this coming year. As you review each item on your list, ask yourself this question, ‘Will this nourish my soul?’
Become aware of whether you are living a Wholehearted life and, if not, what changes you might make that would support moving out of a crazy busy life and into one full of purpose and meaning.