The Awakening of Change
For many of us change can be a fearful experience because it requires us to step out of our comfort zone. Change happens daily, minute-by-minute. “Change is inevitable. If there isn’t change there is no life.” – Margaret Martin
I am continuously working with people to make change – from career transition after having been laid-off to those who want to improve their lives or get their lives back on track. As I observe each of these clients, they handle change differently – as can be expected. Some are petrified, the idea of having to change jobs, move to a new location, take action to get past their fear or any number of other experiences that cause them to become immobilized – can’t move in either direction.
Others review their options, create a plan and determine how they will handle all of the new stuff happening in their life. They too, can be fearful, yet they know they must take action to see it through
Then there are people who assure me that there are things they want to change in their lives so that they can be more productive and live life with more balance. Yet when it comes time to do the actual work to make the change in their lives – they balk. They come up with one excuse after another as to why they can’t do the things they have outlined that they want to happen.
As I step back and pause to consider why some people react / respond that way, a couple of things come up. 1) the desire to change is really not strong enough for them to make the effort – perhaps that comes from lack of self-respect; 2) the changes they want to make will cause them to look deeper into who they are or are not – are they living life authentically? And really it all boils down to FEAR.
I am not sure what makes some people want to make the changes to participate in their life (as one of my client’s recently said, “This year I am going to participate in my life!”) and others seem to just float along not making goals, decisions to improve or be a respectful / responsible person.
Perhaps those of us who desire to improve are born with the genes – I certainly don’t know. But what I do know, those who want to participate in their lives do so! They learn new things, step out of their comfort zone even when they are scared to death because they “get it,” that if they want improvement then change has to happen. I think most of these people have a support system of some variety – a coach, mentor, mastermind group, friend or someone that can help them – that is what has worked for me. Each time I have to or need to make a change, I have one or more people that help me, encourage me and nudge me along the path of change.
I don’t know where you fit in these various categories, but I encourage you to seek some assistance for the changes you need to make – yes, you are the only one you can change and asking for help shows courage, self-respect and dedication to the change you want to make.
For me, about 30 years ago or so, I came across the now famous quote, “Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail.” And sometimes I am scared to death as I blaze that trail.
Choose to participate in your life . . .