The Start Is What Stops Most People
Today I read a meme on LinkedIn that said, “The start is what stops most people”.
My first thought was, “To start means to change and change requires an incentive to propel us forward. Old, known and comfortable are appealing. New, unknown, uncomfortable can be frightening. Something bigger than our fear has to be present to start”.
Choosing to make a change has to be fueled; either by being fed up with the way things are or by having hopes for something better ahead. Major change requires effort and is often stressful and emotional. When we change something significant in our lives, we have to find a new way to navigate the internal world of emotions and the external world of interaction with others while attending to day-to-day life. When something changes, we have to deal with the emotions that prompted that change. Meanwhile, others connected to us have to either change or pressure us to change back. This is not an easy balance to keep because to address all three often requires more energy than we have.
So what is the answer? These are 7 tips to help you navigate the next major change you encounter:
- Recognize that change is a process that takes time, effort and emotional energy. There will be a period of breaking down of what exists before breaking through to a new reality.
- Find your inner source of strength. Remember that your true power lies in the way you perceive situations and the way you choose to react to them.
- Honor and value your emotions for they give you important information. Take time to understand their messages.
- Take an account of your support system; self-help, social support, professional support.
- Integrate stress-reducing activities into your life. Make time to take care of your physical and emotional needs.
- Communicate with your loved ones who are impacted by this change. Remember that this is changing their lives as well and resisting is their way of assessing their new position. Find out what they need to be able to support you and include their needs in your plans. Learn to resolve conflicts in a healthy manner.
- Let go of trying to control the uncontrollable which only drains your energy without giving any value in return. Focus instead on your circle of control and influence.
The good news is that all change works in cycles and cycles come to an end. Your approach to change can make a difference between simply surviving it or growing from the experience.