Should or Could? That is The Question.

by | Jan 15, 2016 | Monkey Mind | 0 comments

What would you do if you lived in could instead of should?

fotolia © zozulinskyi

fotolia © zozulinskyi

We are right in the midst of the holiday season throughout the US and many other countries and in my observation many of us (me included) often get hung up on all the “things” we SHOULD do. I don’t have to create a list for you here because I am sure you have your own, but here are a few items to consider: people you should give a gift, a party you should attend, decorating you should do, baking you should do, a party you should have with people you should invite. That probably about covers your list – right?

Let’s take a moment to pause and think about what is really necessary to do to have a nice holiday. As I recall what mentor, Louise Hay has suggested,  we need to rid the world of the word “Should” and replace it with “Could.”  Should tends to put a lot of guilt on us and rarely is what we should do really a necessity.

Review the list above and your own list and it front of each item write – could do:

I could give gifts to everyone to whom I’ve always given or I could pare the list down. I could go to that party even though I don’t really want to or I could go shopping or even stay home and watch a movie. I could continue decorating the way I always have or I could change things up. I could do all the baking I think the family expects or I could do less and see what they really want instead. I could have a great party and only invite the people I want.


There is one more item you might want to add to the COULD list: I could take good care of myself during this holiday season so that I enjoy it more.

You see, there are always options when you give yourself permission to use COULD instead of SHOULD. What could you do going forward? Could you enjoy the holidays more without “the should” in the room?

Wishing you a beautiful holiday season and happy New Year.


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