Excerpt From the Book Conversations With Crows
Happiness comes when we stop complaining about the troubles we have and offer thanks for all the troubles we don’t have.
~ Thomas S. Monson
How do you get to happy? I’m not sure there is one answer for that. I know how I got there but that does not necessarily mean it will work for others. All I can tell you is what I know and how I started to work my way back to happy.
For me it was always difficult to be or feel joyful. As early as the age of five I sounded and looked like a stoic 50-year-old. Life was not fun and games. There were serious things to be handled and lots of responsibility. I had to make sure I took care of my mother.
Then I had to navigate walking on eggshells so as not to disturb my stepfather. I was seldom happy or peaceful and the next thirty-three years “on guard fear” was my approach to life.
It’s easy to see that when you are at your lowest point there is nowhere to go but up. Yet so many of us seem to get stuck in the layers that we never see the light. We never step out of the dark and embrace our joy status quo. It’s easier to stay afraid and believe all the awful things that happened to us were deserved and that we must pay our penance of living this out no matter how painful. It’s this line of thinking that has made religion so very powerful in our world because it aligns with the heaviness of being “should” on by the family tribe and the environment as a whole.
With this line of thinking the dis-ease of life and illness starts. These layers make it very hard to step into light and be happy. In fact, I think on a very large scale, the world and the way we live is designed this way. Let’s all be very honest with ourselves. When we live like this the happy one always annoys us all.
We quietly make fun of them in the background saying, “What are they on?” The truth is that they scare us. How dare they be so happy in the overall scope of life? Don’t they know how serious you need to be? They are mucking up the system by showing all of us what joy looks like. Don’t come near me I might feel that and then be reminded of how miserable I really am. If you spray that happy juice on me it will take weeks to get back to my miserable status quo.
How do you get to happy? Start here. Start by not being afraid to get the happy juice on you.
Excerpt from the book Conversations With Crows