Finding Balance

by | Jan 15, 2016 | Balance | 0 comments

How do you define and live balanced?

fotolia © Stuart Miles

fotolia © Stuart Miles

What does ‘being in balance’ mean to you? Is it feeling like your work and family life are manageable instead of being overwhelmed with commitments and an inability to get it all done? Is it having the extra hour (and motivation) to get to yoga class like the perky neighbor next door so you could be nicer to your spouse and go with the flow more often? Is it having a clean and organized house instead of dishes in the sink, a never ending ‘honey do’ list and no honey to do them?

Maybe in your ‘ideal balanced life’ you would work less than 50 hours a week, have plenty of time for downward dog and someone else would be cleaning the house or doing the bookkeeping so you could actually have the presence of mind to finish an actual thought. Not in your current reality? Well, let’s explore that perception!

The dictionary defines balance as 1. A state of equilibrium or equipoise; equal distribution of weight, amount, etc. or 2. Mental steadiness or emotional stability; habit of calm behavior, judgment, etc.   I personally think that ‘balance’ is a ‘state of being-ness’ that is fluid and can change on a daily basis. In my own life, feeling ‘balanced’ might depend on how calm (or stressed) I feel depending on my schedule, what mood my first grader is in, and how much (or if) I got any sleep the night before. Admittedly, I find that I feel more balanced, no matter what is going on in my daily life, when I make time for an hour of prayer and meditation before my day gets going. But it isn’t always possible when the dog is barking to go out, lunches need to be packed, and emails responded to before the morning commute. Or is it?

I invite you as you begin to think about what balance means to you, to take a few moments to fill in the blank space after the following statement:

In my ideal life, my perfect day (and perfect week) would look like……

 

Just simply list or write a paragraph or two, about how you would re-structure your days if you could. Consider what your perfect week would look like that would empower you to meet your responsibilities and have more balance and contentment. (It’s ok if this vision doesn’t feel possible or even realistic to you right now).

And before you get out of sorts about the distance or impracticality between the ‘ideal balanced you’ and the current reality of the ‘sometimes more frazzled you’, it may help to do an honest accounting of how you’re spending your time and what might be preventing you from achieving more peace in your life. Go ahead, no one is looking at this but you!

What things do I procrastinate on and/or really don’t have time to do or am simply not good at? This may be an uncomfortable question but our chronic unfinished ‘to dos’ take up a lot of mental and emotional real estate. And by simply acknowledging them on paper; the door may open to possibilities that currently have no room to exist in an overcrowded mind.

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How could I get more help or delegate these tasks? Am I willing to take action by praying for guidance from the divine about the next step and asking trusted friends, family and/or colleagues?

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If I had help doing some of these things, or didn’t have to do them at all, how would that free up my time (and brain power)? Is there anything I know I need to be doing (and long to be doing) that would also bring me more joy, fulfillment and prosperity?

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Are there any habits or distractions that I engage in that take up valuable time? (scrolling through Facebook, over checking emails, constantly hitting the snooze button on the alarm instead of getting up an hour earlier perhaps?) Am I willing to implement strategies to help me track my time better?

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Who could help me be accountable and/or coach me to create some new habits and achieve my goals?   Am I willing to be transparent enough to grow?

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Is there anything else that Spirit wants me to know about how I could achieve more balance in my life?

 

You don’t have to figure this all out in one sitting. But I encourage you to take some time to explore these questions. As author Cheryl Strayed says about self-responsibility: “I’m encouraged by how good it feels to DO that tiny gigantic thing. To follow through on what you know you must do in order to be happy”.  What if contemplating and answering these questions could help you get started on that path?

 

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