Finding Your Ground

by | Jun 14, 2015 | Mindful Living | 0 comments

 © Jaren Wicklund

© Jaren Wicklund

We each have within us an internal “resting place” where we go to find our personal peace and to decide on our next, best move. That safe space is called your “ground”. You’ve been there often throughout your life, but you probably haven’t realized it. It is the haven you automatically seek whenever you feel confused or overwhelmed or out of step with everyone else.

Your “ground” houses the “core values” that define the desires of your heart and drive most of your actions. When you seek to get in touch with those vital values, they assist you in making the right decisions for you. We all find “our ground” in different ways:

~~~Dr. Vernon Sylvest, a well-known author and lecturer says that whenever his wife feels out of sorts or confused about anything, she deliberately finds “her ground” by focusing directly on the current moment. She breathes deeply several times to help her reach her “ground”, and then strongly reminds herself, several times if necessary to make her point, that, “I’m perfectly fine right now.” As soon as she can accept that she is all right in the present moment she can relax and let the worrisome, unproductive thoughts of what might happen in the future fall gently back into perspective.

~~~Denese Schellink, a minister from California, goes directly to her “ground” whenever she’s feeling stressed to make sure that she in total integrity with whatever situation she is facing. She even uses a hand gesture, turning her hand to the side and moving it up and down from her forehead to her chest to create an energy field between her head and her heart. She is checking to see if her head and her heart are in agreement; if her words and her actions are in tune with the desires of her heart. She wants to be certain that she is “walking her talk.” If she is, then she knows that she is “grounded” in integrity and she can let her “coulda-shoulda-woulda” thoughts subside.

~~~Integrity was also the core value that served eleven-year old Rosie Elliot from South Carolina, when she sought to find her “ground” at a crucial moment. Rosie was given the word “avowal” to spell in a National Spelling Bee.   She spelled it, but the judges had a hard time determining whether, in her soft southern accent, she had spelled the word with an “a” or an “e”. They played back the tape several times, but still could not tell for sure – so they asked Rosie.  By that time, Rosie had figured out the correct spelling, and she also knew she had not spelled it correctly. For a few moments, she wrestled in her heart (while every eye watched her), between her desire to win and her desire to be an honest person. After a few seconds in her “ground, she said, “I spelled it with an ‘e’, Sir.” The crowd gave her a standing ovation. Rosie didn’t win the Spelling Bee, but in that moment of intense searching, Rosie found her core values and acted on them.

~~~A Fortune-Five-Hundred CEO told a reporter recently that when he becomes overwhelmed with the responsibilities of his job and his family, he simply gets into bed and doesn’t get up until he feels really ready to go back to work. He allows himself no outside stimuli – no reading, no television, no cell phone, no computer, and no music – just sleep and silence and more sleep and more silence until he is once again thoroughly “grounded” in his life’s purpose. Then boredom overwhelms him and his naturally optimistic nature drives him happily back to work.

~~~A heavily taxed single mother, with an overwhelming set of tasks to perform every day, finds her “ground” in her kitchen, (sometimes at 2:00 o’clock in the morning). Somewhere, between the measuring and mixing and the baking and frying, her conscious mind relaxes into the familiar tasks and she is able to get in touch with her core values. By the time the food is cooked, she’s feeling “grounded” and she knows what her options are. It works for her every time.

You may prefer a physical activity like swimming vigorously, or hitting a few golf balls or yoga to help you find your “ground”.

Many people choose to listen to their favorite music, undisturbed. When they lose themselves in “their music”, the cobwebs are cleared and they easily find their “ground”.

Or you can choose to follow the guidance of the quintessential philosopher, Winnie-the-Pooh, who always turns away from chaos with the words, “Oh Bother, I think I’ll take a nap.”

Now that you’re thinking about it, where do you go to find your “ground”?  And now that you’ve identified it, wouldn’t it make sense to go there a little more often?

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