We are drawing on the compassionate and timeless wisdom of The Gabriel Messages to provide insight and inspiration that we can apply every day to our busy lives. For this issue we are being reminded about the importance of treating ourselves with love and compassion.
The Gabriel Message for this week
Give yourself a fast from negative thoughts about yourself.
This card always shows up at opportune moments when I notice I am being less than compassionate with myself. It is a very old habit. Somehow I took all the criticism I received growing up and heaped it on myself when I was away from home.
It appeared that I thought if I could really be relentless with myself it would somehow make me better. My ego kept me on a very short leash. I guess it wanted to make sure I toed some line that would ensure that I was doing “it correctly.” I felt that I was somehow flawed and my natural exuberance needed to be corralled. This made me live in a very contracted state, and of course I attracted people that would step right in and add more judgments in case I relaxed my vigilance.
It was during the millennium shift when I received a brilliant gift from the Universe disguised as the loss of everything I held dear. At that critical juncture I realized that if ever I needed compassion, this was the time. I also started giving myself more permission to be authentic and live in my truth. I noticed that when I would back off from my critical mind, my heart would open and I felt more love for all things — including myself. It was a new experience.
It is clear that if being very critical and hard on myself would “whip me into shape” I would have been enlightened long ago. What my spirit really needs is tenderness and support. It takes a different kind of vigilance to be aware of my habitual thoughts about myself and my world. Usually my feelings let me know. When I’m being hard on myself I feel awful. There’s the first clue. I go out of my way now to be as kind to myself as I am with others. Usually I am very kind to other people and give them the benefit of my love and compassion. This is what I need as well.
Sometimes I just put my hand on my heart when I notice my thinking has gone off the love track. That is the Quick Coherence Technique from HeartMath.org. That simple gesture brings me back into a loving place with myself and helps me attune to the One Heart within all beings. Just touching myself kindly in this way is also very soothing to my inner self, as well as my mammalian body.
Synchronicity was demonstrated just beautifully after I wrote the above paragraph. I went to my email and there from HeartMath was an article about the importance of self-love. When this happens, I love it. It helps me to know that I am in tune. Here is a portion of the article:
Self-love means being more compassionate, patient and accepting of ourselves. It means choosing to make self-care a priority. The idea of self-love might feel a bit awkward, but it is not selfish. It is necessary. As we get better at self-love we feel more confident and understand that self-love and loving others is simply a reflection of our deepest essence.
A little child thrives when she is adored and encouraged. This is also true of our inner spirit. We need to be our own greatest cheerleader and supporter in life. The steps we take to give ourselves the benefit of our love and reassurance will lift our vibrational frequency, making it even easier to feel love about ourselves and the world.
In these times when our vibrational frequencies quickly attract more of what we are thinking and feeling, it is exceptionally important to stay as loving with ourselves as possible. We need to keep our thoughts in alignment with the Divine Mind through awareness. Alignment with that vertical access to Source energy is key to being able to stay more conscious in daily life. From this place we can be more accepting of ourselves and allow the situations in our lives to unfold more gracefully.
It begins with our thoughts and our intention to stay in a loving, accepting place with ourselves. Sometimes it requires we be vigilant with our thoughts, but usually it is enough to be willing to give ourselves the compassion and kindness that we all truly deserve.
Know deeply that you are totally lovable and worthy of all that is good. Now let your heart receive love from the Source of all Life, from the Angels, and most of all, from yourself.