Its Safe to Let Go
I remember when I learned to swim, the big pool was before me, yet I didn’t have the confidence to let go of the wall. Although I could see the excitement of being out in the open water, holding onto the wall was comforting.
I trusted the safety of the wall more than I trusted myself.
When we think about our lives as adults, how often do we trust the beliefs and opinions of those around us more than we know what is true for us? It seems we ask for an opinion on everything we can think of, yet do we let go of these opinions and trust ourselves?
If we think of holding onto the wall, as holding onto the opinions of others, we can recognize how many times these opinions hold us back. Is it possible that these opinions keep us from experiencing the excitement of life?
It can be a challenge to sift through our beliefs and the opinions we hold, yet it is only through challenging these thoughts that we will learn to trust what is right for us. One question to ask would be, does this opinion cause us to trust ourselves, or does it limit our way of living? Is the opinion forcing us to hold onto the wall? This line of questioning does require us to be honest and courageous at the same time. Honest to seek the answers that are true for us, and courageous because we may begin to see new ways of living.
How often has an opinion from a close friend halted a desire we were pursuing? In this case we have trusted the opinions or beliefs of this friend more than we have trusted ourselves. If our trust in these opinions continues, we may notice we are constantly holding onto the wall—limiting ourselves to the possibilities ahead.
The intention of learning to swim, is to set ourselves free from restrictions, so too is it with developing the skill to trust ourselves. At first it may take time, just like learning to swim.
I for one have swallowed my share of pool water.
It is important to understand that the opinions and beliefs of other people are based on their life experiences and may not be true for us today. This is where it becomes important to learn to look within ourselves to discover the guidance that is always there.
Instincts, intuition and gut feelings are all signals from our inner guidance. All we have to do to tap into this wisdom is ask a question, then search for the feeling of guidance. Sure this takes trust, but this guidance will be the most accurate source of guidance we will ever receive, and it is always available to us.
Just like letting go of the wall, trust will need to be built around this powerful source of information. The outcome of the situation will determine if you followed the guidance or not. This may seem backwards, but the lesson will always appear after the situation has ended. The thing to accept is that you are searching for a way to trust yourself, without the need to ask others for their opinion. If we trust we can swim well, then we can let go of the wall.
This requires faith in our ability to stay afloat, as well as in our ability to know when a situation no longer serves our best interest.
Through time we will gain the confidence needed to trust ourselves so when a new challenging situation comes our way, we can ask for guidance, then feel our way to the right course of action.