How are you relating to YOU?
Does this question confuse you at first glance?
Let me rephrase it. How is your relationship with yourself? Do you have a relationship with yourself?
Often times when we think of the relationships in our life, we think of a significant other, our friends or our family but what about YOU? In order to truly survive in life we have to be building a strong relationship with ourselves, our true “being”.
What I mean is that we need to start truly looking within ourselves for answers when it comes to our body, our choices in life and our overall vitality. I remember a time when I thought I knew me. I thought I was all set and had all the answers until I realized it was my ego talking. What I REALLY found out was that I had absolutely no relationship to myself whatsoever and in fact, didn’t really know who I was. I was constantly stepping out of my body to get away, to get away from my feelings and emotions. I’d look for every distraction in order to escape. As time went on, I started developing health challenges such as weight gain, depression, chronic digestive issues (leading me to the emergency room on occasion), anorexia, food intolerances and the list goes on. I was living my life completely disconnected from my true self.
“Do I have a relationship to myself and if so, how is it?”
Until….. I hit rock bottom and ended up severely ill in the hospital. That was my wake up call. It doesn’t have to be that way though. We don’t necessarily need this emergency wake up call in order to “wake up”. All we really need to do is just stop and listen. Stop and ask yourself, “Do I have a relationship to myself and if so, how is it?”
When I’m working with clients this is the first step where we start to integrate the mind with the body. A good example of that is when we have feelings or emotions come up that are uncomfortable. We tend to run away from them rather than face and embrace them. We might even sabotage ourselves for feeling the way we do. We are allowed to feel! For instance, if you are feeling tightness in your throat, and chest, it might mean that you are holding back something very important to you that you’ve been wanting to communicate with someone, but instead you are avoiding the situation. Perhaps you are grieving over a loss of someone close to you and you are feeling this weakness in your heart and the pit of your stomach. Let those feelings pour out of your soul rather then bottling them up. This is when most people fester things and as a result, physical side effects take place and that is when you want to pay attention to what your body is telling you. Your body is an AMAZING source for information and guidance.
When one is not used to connecting to themselves in this way it can be a challenge. This might not be easy for you but let that be OK. It’s like building a muscle. I still find myself at times stepping away from an uncomfortable situation and not facing it, however the difference now is that I catch myself. I then choose to go inwards and embrace the emotion rather then run or distract myself from it.
So how can you start relating to YOU from now on?
Here are a few tips to get you started:
- Begin your day with a hot cup of water with lemon and journal (no technology)
- Meditate daily
- Talk to yourself with kindness and love
- Live with gratitude
- Let go of numbing your feelings and face them
- Do yoga, dance or something expressive with your body
- Practice breathing exercises
- Enhance your personal and spiritual development
- Find peers, mentors or a coach who can support you in this
- Be patient with yourself
When you are connecting with yourself in this way, the challenges of life are so much easier to break through and the best part is that when you truly get to know and accept all parts of you in this way then YOU will LOVE YOU that much more and that’s really our end goal right?