“There is a vitality, a life force, an energy, a quickening that is translated through you into action, and because there is only one of you in all of time, this expression is unique. And if you block it, it will never exist through any other medium and it will be lost. The world will not have it. It is not your business to determine how good it is nor how valuable nor how it compares with other expressions. It is your business to keep it yours clearly and directly, to keep the channel open.” Martha Graham
What a beautiful description of inner beauty! When we are on our path, when we are living a life on purpose, full of joy and gratitude, we are living the life we are meant to live. We shine for all to see.
But what if you aren’t sure what your purpose is?
I find the following exercise a great way to tap into your Spirit and bring forth what I call your Heart Traits, or qualities that reflect the true nature of your essence. Heart Traits are mirrors to your soul. It is Spirit speaking directly to you, reminding you that you are a spark of that Divine Light, so uniquely special that no one else in the entire galaxy can shine as brilliantly as you can. The following exercise will help you tap into these traits, acknowledge them as yours, and begin the process of living a fuller, richer life.
Finding Traits That Warm Your Heart
1. In your journal, list your best qualities. List the attributes as they pop into your mind. You might be good at being a friend, or being considerate. You might be good at figuring out puzzles, or maintaining calm in the middle of an emergency. You might be able to see humor in the direst circumstances. You might be good at telling the truth, even when it is uncomfortable, or caring for a neighbor when she is sick. You might be patient, or humble, or a good listener. The key is that the feeling deeply resonates within you.
2. Let us take the example of “I am kind.” As you begin to write the words “I am kind,” the feelings associated with this word may be lack and doubt. You might be remembering instances when you were not particularly kind. Notice whose voice you hear, speaking those words of doubt and lack. It is probably not your own voice. Feel beneath the first response as you say the word aloud. If you smile and feel a warm, soft excitement in your heart chakra, as you say the word kind, then the answer is yes. Write that trait down. If, on the other hand, you get a lukewarm response to the question, do not despair. The lukewarm response just means that this is not one of your top traits. After all, we are all different, and there is no judgment around this exercise. It is not about right or wrong answer; it just is. Accept it, go forth, and find those traits that truly do warm your heart – right to the core.
3. Next, bring to mind a person you admire, (a friend, family member, a former teacher, or coach) and the qualities they possess that brings a smile to your face. Traits such as loyalty, honesty, intelligence, courage, creativeness, adventurous spirit, kindness, or gentleness might come to mind. Again, do the same test. If this trait warms your heart center and makes you smile, then write it down. Like attracts like. Know that you are attracted to those most like you. Yes, it’s OK to say this: you are great, and you attract to you those people with qualities that match your own. If you admire your friend because she is so caring to her mother, remember that like attracts like, and you have that same quality, caring for others, in you. Write it down and validate it.
This is your Spirit talking directly to you, telling you how special and unique you are. Take the list and at the top write:
Heart Traits – Messages from Spirit, reminding me of WHO I REALLY AM
This is the core of your personal power. The traits you listed are part of your nature. Accept them, love them, and honor them. Your primary purpose in life is to remember who you really are and to live your life on purpose. Accept that your Heart Traits are qualities that you possess. Be comfortable with the thought that you are a terrific person on the inside with fantastic qualities waiting to shine through. Own these qualities. Make them a part of your inner core. They represent the true you.