The Blessing of Conscious Connection
I often wonder what would happen if I could get away and seclude myself like Henry David Thoreau at Walden’s Pond? I often envy him for the time he took to have by himself in the woods. I would have no issues or problems, just a peaceful surrender to nature. Would this really be my reality? I could be completely alone in my space with no apparent threats, but my ego still punishes me.
Perhaps your house is empty or maybe you found a peaceful little spot in your home or outside away from everyone. What happens next is truly remarkable. Most of the time you do not ponder on the beauty of life or treasure the present moment. Even though you have utter silence you are the one attacking yourself with the thoughts that enter your mind.
You are on the tail end of your journey of life slowing down so I ask you to watch the monkey madness in your brain and see if you can switch it over to pleasant thoughts. Be aware that quiet time away should be used for self-reflection, deep contemplation, and relaxation.
Enjoy these times instead of thinking of the unfairness of life, stewing over what someone said earlier in the day, feeling jealous of the neighbor’s new car or brewing over something that happened over 20 years ago. (How dare they do that to me!) Like that person you are mad at is still a young pup and hasn’t changed and grown up through the years.
You are starting to come out into the world again, but it is hard to handle the times of being alone and stuck at home. At first maybe it was sort of nice for some of you to sleep in and have time to play board games. I played some solitaire with actual cards over the past few months; something I have not done since I was young and pre-Internet. But now you are itching to have something to do – to no longer feel lonely and disconnected from others.
As Thoreau says, “What sort of space separates a human from another and makes him solitary?” I may be in the same room as another but not really understand them as they do not get me and this makes me alone. It is when I connect with someone and our minds come together that we are near each other. I may be at a house all alone in the woods but communicate to another by social media my most innermost thoughts. Even though we are separated by distance that person is with me and I am not lonely.
Thoreau states the value of a man is not in his skin, that we should touch him. It is through this method that we acquire new value for each other. So get on Zoom, call each other and really get to the heart of what matters most to find deep connections and you will not be alone.