Gaining A Broader Perspective
I always spoke to myself and also answered myself. I never understood the comment “It’s okay to
talk to yourself as long as you don’t start answering yourself.” It was just something I always did.
Ever since I was a child I have loved to sit in the dark. During those times I spoke to myself quite
often. Sometimes I’d have conversations with other people in my imagination that maybe I would
want to have or I was preparing to have. Not that those conversations would ever actually take
place but my fear was that they would, so I would have a few run-throughs. I know that a lot of
the time I would continue conversations that were long since over, but I had much more to say. I
think that is the most common and socially acceptable, we can see that happen in every sitcom
that has more than 10 episodes I am sure.
I had a friend who once said she wanted to have a cell phone on her as a prop (this was 15
years ago and cell phones were not as pervasive as they are today) so that she could walk
down the street and talk to herself without getting looks. I told her I talked to myself all the time,
and I remember how strange it was for her to think it was okay.
I have found that talking to myself gives me a wider perspective. It has helped me be kind
because sometimes, when I am in conversation with myself, I am critical of how I responded to
a situation and I learn from that. Talking to ourselves looks very different throughout our lives
Sometimes we are our own ditch diggers, and during those times it’s nice to have a friend who can be there in bed with us hiding under the covers.
Sometimes it’s needed for us to be critical of who we are so that we can grow into who we are
going to be.
Sometimes there is no reason for it but it is comforting and we are enjoying our own company.
We are not in the world alone, and when I say that I do not mean we have neighbors, of course
we do, I mean WE are not alone. That which is me, is not ONLY me. There are many voices
within us, depending on your personal beliefs there may have been many lifetimes behind us
that we carry, maybe God or angels. Voices that are of us but are definitely not us in the sense
of our physical being. Talking to ourselves, and doing that with confidence is not only
pleasurable and comforting but it is also helpful. It may very well be information we have not
gathered, but are being given. It is important to be sensitive to what we are feeling and when we
are in conversation with ourselves enjoy it, get lost in it.
I have found that I do not talk to myself as much as I used to, but I still do and I still answer
myself. Sometimes I have opposing opinions on things as well. This is not a surprise to me.
Contradiction is such a part of life that one answer can neither fit every question nor always fit
Questions and Answers, the world is filled with them and everyone will have what is right for
them at the time. I am finding as we enter a new time of awakening, more and more people will
have more and more contradicting answers to the same questions within themselves. Some of
these answers are so complex that they are impossible to express with words alone.
At first we need to get muddled up in the abstraction of the state of the idea. Then we can try to
articulate it. We can write, but it can be much more difficult to write than it can be to just sit and
have a conversation with someone who understands both the idea and the abstraction that we
are sorting out. Fortunately that person is always available when we are.