The Eye of the Beholder

by | Jan 1, 2021 | Conscious Living | 0 comments


What is Possible?


January 2021 The Eye of the Beholder by Paul Hudon

Copyright: NinaMalyna

It’s been said that beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. For me this would mean that no two people will see the same thing the same way. If we were to take it one step further, then no two people will experience the same thing the same way. When I think of the past year no truer words have been spoken.

If each of us is experiencing life differently, then how does this affect the way we interact with others? Are we judging each other on these differences, or do we have an understanding of why others view the world as they do? The way we see the world will be influenced by how we were raised, the beliefs we have formed throughout our lives, and the way we were taught by those around us. With all of these variables it’s no wonder we all see beauty differently.


Yet if we focus on these differences, we separate ourselves from the commonalities we all have.

It’s easy to create walls that separate us because of our differences, but what is the purpose of these walls? Behind these walls we block our ability to become more understanding and compassionate towards those who see the world from their point of view. Rather than see our differences as a way to separate us, is it possible that our differences can unite us?

How often do we judge others because they see the world differently than we do. Yet our judgement is based on our life experiences and not a full understanding of theirs. The thing about judgement is that it disconnects us from the world around us.

As I look back on the past year, I must accept that I was doing the best I could have, given what I knew at the time. This releases me of the negativity that arises when self-judgement becomes the prevalent emotion when life becomes a challenge.

The question then becomes can we release our judgement of others, and our self-judgement knowing that we are all doing the best we can with the knowledge we have? That can be a challenging thought because we have a natural tendency to judge others without much thought, then seek the reason for our differences later. But how does this serve the greater good?

I remember the first time I saw a painting by the artist Pablo Picasso, the cubist forms of a woman were new and unfamiliar to me. Even though I had never seen anything like it before, I had to appreciate how Picasso saw the world. Once I began to understand his work, I released any judgement I had formed when I first viewed his work.

When I released my judgement, I was able to see the beauty in his art.

Imagine each of us as a beautiful piece of art, some people will see us clearly, while others will need some time to understand why we are the way we are. This requires patience and understanding, but what are the options? How have the options served us over the past few years?

As we look to the new year, we often make resolutions to eat healthier food and exercise more, many resolutions that benefit our physical body. Yet how often do we resolve to be more understanding and kind, even to those who see the world differently than we do.

The new year allows us the opportunity to look over the past year, and learn some important lessons that we can take with us as we move into the future. These lessons may be ones of being more compassionate, kind, and understanding towards ourselves as well as those who see the world differently.

This does not mean that we will not face challenges. This means that once we have an understanding of what makes others different, we can then search for our commonalities. In doing so we may see that we have similar desires that have been overlooked because our judgement blinded us from seeing our commonalities.
As I look to forward to the new year, I am going to choose to focus on being more kind and compassionate with those who see life in their own way. If I release my judgement of them, I may begin to see their beauty in a different way. The best I can do is to look for the commonalities I have with others, as I do, they may begin to see the commonalities they have with me.

Isn’t this how we want to experience life, as beautiful beings living for a common good?






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